I Don’t Know What to Do

Young-woman-sitting-on-the-ground-surrounded-by-fall-leaves-looking-contemplativeWas your pregnancy test positive? If you’re pregnant, and it’s unexpected, you might feel completely overwhelmed- like some of the biggest decisions of your life ahead of you, and you feel like you have to make those decisions alone. 

If you feel that way - pregnant and alone - please know, we are here for you. 

It's okay if you don't have it all figured out just yet. The important thing to remember is that this is your choice to make and it doesn’t have to be rushed.

Take time to learn about all your pregnancy options and learn more about yourself, too. 

If you're worried that you aren't ready to be a mom, and want to learn more about your personal strengths, you can also use our free quiz here.

While you are thinking through your options, it can be helpful to visualize each option. Think about how today’s decision will make you feel now, and try to think about how you’ll feel in the future.

In alphabetical order, here are the most common options.

Should I get an Abortion?

Of all your choices, this is the most immediately permanent. That’s something to keep in mind if you don't know if you want an abortion. It’s also something to think about if you’re feeling pressured to have an abortion.

While lots of people around you may have opinions on what you should do, this is ultimately your choice.

If you think you might want an abortion, here are a few questions to ask yourself.

  • Have I taken a pregnancy test yet? If you have not had a positive pregnancy test, click here to find a location for a free pregnancy test, or call 1-800-712-4357.

  • Do I know enough about abortion to be confident in my choice? If not, contact us and we can connect you with help in your area. These centers are designed to empower you to make an informed choice, and they do not profit from your decision.

  • Have I had an ultrasound to see if my pregnancy is viable? Some early pregnancies end in miscarriages, so it’s good to know that going into your abortion decision. An ultrasound will also alert you if you have an ectopic1 pregnancy, which can be a life-threatening condition. For a free ultrasound, call 1-800-712-4357, send us a message, or chat with us.

Should I Choose Adoption? 

This is a decision that can be made any time in your pregnancy, all the way up to birth. It can even be made right after you have your baby. There are several different kinds of adoption, and it can be helpful to learn about each type to see if any fit your situation.

If you are thinking about adoption, here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • Have I confirmed my pregnancy by both pregnancy test and ultrasound? This is important in helping you determine that you’re pregnant and how far along you are. It’s also helpful to know how your pregnancy is progressing.

  • Do I understand the different types of adoption and my rights before and after? You can call 1-800-712-4357, send us a message, or chat with us at OptionLine, and we can locate adoption help in your area. An agency we can connect you to will be able to give you more information, and help you know all of your rights.

Should I Keep My Baby? 

This is a decision that can be made all the way up to birth. It's completely normal to feel not ready to be a mom when you first find out you are pregnant. The good news is this- the months long duration of a pregnancy means you have time to learn new skills and gather resources for your growing family. If you're not sure how to get help with baby items, parenting classes, healthcare, or other necessities, please contact us today!

If you're thinking about parenting your baby, here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • Have I had a pregnancy test and ultrasound? This is important in helping you determine that you’re pregnant, how far along you are, and that your pregnancy is viable.

  • Do I need any help? Some women are in a position to purchase what they need on their own. Most women might need a little (or a lot) of help. There are over 2,000 organizations in the United States, and many more around the world, who help women and families with anything from baby bottles and diapers, to peer and professional counseling, and even housing.

  • Call 1-800-712-4357, send us a message, or chat with us at OptionLine today, and we can locate parenting help in your area. This could include baby items, parenting classes, and referrals to community help local to you. We’re here 24/7!

Note: Option Line and our network of participating pregnancy centers offers peer counseling and accurate information about all pregnancy options; however, these centers do not offer or refer for abortion services. The information presented on this website and given through contacting Option Line is intended for general education purposes only and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional and/or medical advice.